FREE TO BE ME in Care

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FREE TO BE ME in Care

The Older LGBT Group has created a 2-hour LGBT awareness training session for care homes and care staff and we’ve called it Free to be Me in Care because feeling free to be who we really are, without fear of prejudice or negativity, is vital for wellbeing.

Imagine yourself as an older lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender person in need of care, feeling vulnerable and alone.

Silence can be oppressive as anyone who has been ‘sent to Coventry’ will know. A silence that fills the room when you enter, a silent look between others, an uncomfortable silence between you and someone you thought was your friend. Better to pretend just to be like everyone else than risk being ostracised.

That’s why it’s better not to rock the boat when you’re feeling old and vulnerable. That’s why you keep memories of your same sex partner hidden, never mention your previous life with them, never show photos or share stories. You never reveal your ‘criminal past’ because for you and your peers who you were and what you did was illegal until 1967. Stigmatised by society, labelled sinful by religion and shamed in your own eyes for so many years, your own silence is perfectly understandable.

But how sad not to be able to talk about those you loved. How sad to have to spend every day in hiding in your last years. How sad that care homes routinely report:-

“We don’t have any of them here.”

Well, with Free to be Me in Care, we hope to help change the culture of care homes so that everyone will feel welcome.

The 4 presenters are Lisa Kelly, Sue Lister, Ann Murray and Kevin Sell.

Our 3 pilot sessions have been extremely well received:Picture of Free to be Me in Care advertisement

Nice range of people, styles, content. Different approaches give a balanced session…

The use of multiple presenters was very effective…Keep the presentation as friendly as it was today…

Dramatically open and engaging. I was surprised…

It made me a lot more aware about the dangers of pre-conceived notions…

Increased awareness of how best to support people within our service…

All homes should have this training; really interesting; brilliant, thank you!

The training is supported by the Aviva Community Fund and by Age UK.

Free to be Me in Care is available for booking. £120 for the first presentation (£100 for the 2nd for the same workplace) + expenses. Resource packs included.
Please phone Sue Lister for further details: 01904 488870

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